The 7 Principles of Marriage

The Seven Principles course, is based on The New York Times bestseller The Seven Principles for Making Marriage Work, was developed from Dr. Gottman’s four decades of research with more than 3,000 couples.

Over the years, Drs. John and Julie Gottman have continued to fine-tune their innovative method of disrupting negative behaviors that send marriages onto the rocks. Showing couples how to work with the small daily moments that make up the heart and soul of any relationship.

As a result of this workshop, you will learn how to:

Foster respect, affection, and closeness; build and share a deeper connection with each other; keep conflict discussions calm; break through and resolve conflict gridlock; and strengthen and maintain the gains in your relationship.

Workshop topics include:

  • Learning to recognize the Four Horsemen of the Apocalypse and what to do if they are attacking your marriage
  • Identifying your relationship’s specific strengths and how to build on them
  • Learning about the effects of physiological flooding and how it may affect conflict resolution
  • Using the Fondness and Admiration System to renew respect and care for one another
  • Creating an Emotional Bank Account that you can draw upon in times of stress
  • Developing your problem-solving skills, including the 6 skills for effective conflict resolutions
  • Finding out how you can make your dreams and aspirations come true for you, your partner, and your relationship

In addition to a greater understanding of how to build friendship, manage conflict, and create shared meaning in your relationship, you will receive, The Seven Principles for Making Marriage Work Essential Package, which includes the revised edition of The Seven Principles and two Couples Guides.

The bestselling The Seven Principles for Making Marriage Work is the acclaimed culmination of four decades of research, made widely available for couples who long for better relationships. Until now, marking up the book’s pages was the only way to record answers to its many exercises. Our new Couples Guide allows each partner to privately record answers and journal thoughtfully about the concepts in the book, as they apply to one’s relationship. It takes readers step-by-step through the interactive exercises in each chapter of The Seven Principles. Visit our events page for upcoming workshops.

Appropriate couples are:

  • Pre-engaged.
  • Premarital.
  • Everyone from newlyweds to seniors.
  • Those who wish to enhance a good marriage.
  • Those needing better conflict management tools.

Inappropriate couples are those experiencing:

  • Severe relationship distress.
  • Emotional abuse.
  • Domestic violence.
  • Active addictions (alcohol, drug, sexual, gambling, etc.)
  • Serious mental health problems in one or both partners.